Man up girls

The truth is, I have never been in a serious relationship, ever. My longest relationship was back in the 7th grade and that lasted for about four months. What did me and my boyfriend at the time did in those four months? Absolutely nothing. We went to the movies once. I didn't even want to go. He forced me to go. I mean, he didn't hold a gun to my head or anything, but he lied and said that his sister had already paid for our tickets, so I felt bad and went. It was matinée. No we didn't make out at the movies. We sat there and watched the movie. I don't even remember what we saw. I'm not even sure if we held hands. The other time that we hung out was at his cousin's house (my best friend at the time dated his cousin...how convenient). We definitely madeout. So out of the period of four months, we hung out twice outside of school and talked on the phone a lot. He was a grade older so we didn't have the same classes. I don't even think we had the same recess. After four months of intense dating (lol), he dumped me. I remember crying a lot. I didn't know what I was crying for, I mean yeah I just got dumped... but it was more like the crying was expected. I cried because that's what I was supposed to do, or so I thought. I was in a couple more "relationships" after that, but those lasted for about a week. Haha.

As you can see, I am no relationship expert. But don't take me for a fool. When it comes to relationships, I am a lot wiser than you think. I believe in tough love. For many years, I have provided my friends with some great relationship advice. They may sound mean most of the time but you can't really understand how bad something is until you can feel, hear, and experience the worst of it. Sometimes, I feel like they should pay for these valuable advices, haha jk. By observing, learning, processing, and absorbing, I learned how to be wise with relationships. From my friends' relationships to movies' relationships to my own non-relationship-but-semi-dated experiences, I feel like I have seen it all. 

I don't think anybody should settle for less. Especially for girls, you're only cheating yourself. If you know what you want, go for it. You shouldn't think about his feelings and what his make-or-break answer will be, just do it. Why would you want to make yourself suffer and question your existence in the love department? If you don't know what you want, figure it out! Go with the happy-radar. If he makes you happy, great! If he doesn't, I'm sure you know what to do. Don't be afraid, take chances. We're all in our 20s, we still have years ahead of us to find prince charming. Why should you think about losing him or missing out on him? Think for yourself and think about yourself, put yourself first, ALWAYS. Living in fear will only cause you pain and make you miss out on all of the greatness this world has to offer. 

So why am still single? Because I don't seek for a relationship. Nor do I really crave one. I'm content where I'm at. Even though at times I try convince myself to believe that I need a man to hold me. When I start to think about that, I stop thinking about it and start realizing how awesome my life is, and that's what makes me happy. I'm not saying I am against being in a relationships, it just hasn't happened yet. I would like for fate to take its course. Once fate decides that it's time for me to meet a great man, then I will take charge and seek for my happiness with that man. Until then, I'm living it to the fullest (cheesy? I know).

xoxo

I can go on and on and on and on and on about my relationship believes, but then all of my secrets will be out. Then the dating scene will just be lame, dull, and a bore. 

Controlling the Urge

One of the most important steps in reaching Nirvana is putting a halt on our cravings. They say craving is the source of suffering and that if we cease the craving, we can end our suffering. I am not a Buddhist nor am I religious at all. Actually I am religious, but in my own way, by taking certain aspects from different religions plus my own life experiences. I have found that the most beautiful thing about Buddhism though is the art of reaching Nirvana. It's such a beautiful word isn't it? Lately, I would find myself thinking about Nirvana. Especially when I have my bad days, it soothes me back to normal grounds. So in order to reach Nirvana, this peace, this so-called freedom from suffering, we must control our urges, our cravings. A lot of the time the things that we crave for isn't always healthy for us. The majority of the time, we crave for something we cannot have. And the things that we don't have are the things that weren't meant for us. This is my own interpretation of what Nirvana and controlling the urge means, I could be far off from the truth but the meanings that I have so far for myself seems to work just fine. By controlling my cravings, things just fall into place. Sometimes I would sit back and think damn, how is my life so almost close to perfect? Nirvana.

xoxo